Why Am I Unimpressed by Engagement Rings?
I was considering this about myself today, and I want to know if there is anyone out there who is as unimpressed as me.
I am unimpressed by engagement rings. I don’t see their point. I think they are a waste of money. I think a woman should be more concerned with the character of her fiancé than with a ring and vice versa with the man.
So why am I this way? If you agree, why are you this way? Is it because we were just born that way? Because we’re not into jewelry much at all? Because we’re “religious” and tend not to care as much about worldy goodies? Because we think anything that is that expensive is a waste of money?
I’ve felt this way about engagement rings for as long as I can remember, even through my own engagement years ago (with no ring at my request).
August 14th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Asalamu alaikum sisters,
I agree, isn’t one ring enough? I did not receive an engagement ring and my wedding ring was not an expensive one. My husband has offered to get me a new more expensive ring, but I don’t feel the need to get one. I also feel that far too much is spent on some weddings. Sure, it is the joining of two families and there should be some celebration, but I’m sure the new couple could use the money for so many more useful things such as a down payment on a home, furniture, etc….
September 19th, 2009 at 11:03 pm
The engagement ring is a symbol of your future husbands commitment to you.
November 27th, 2009 at 5:09 am
In history, the engagement ring was a woman’s security in case the man ran off, leaving her alone and in debt. She could sell it and have a small fortune for living on. Today, its just a tradition that’s lingered on. As for why you aren’t interested in them, I can’t say. I don’t think it comes down to religion or anything else, but to the individual, to how materialistic you are.
November 27th, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Oooh. I can appreciate the historical reason! That tradition is still practiced in South Asian cultures where brides receive 22K gold from the groom and from the guests as wedding gifts. It’s like a savings account for the women, but considered more safe–safe from being stolen and safe from devalued.
April 27th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
I like engagement rings as long as they remain simple. To have a ring simply to show off the “rock” is vain IMO.
July 6th, 2010 at 1:32 am
The engagement ring is a cultural thing. In a lot of countries the engagement ring is the wedding ring. On your wedding day you move it to the other hand. I have never seen a woman show of her “big rock” in my own country, Holland.
August 18th, 2010 at 2:58 pm
Interesting to hear! Thank you for taking the time to write. We’re so materialistic in the US–taught to us via advertising by the companies who want our money.